I trust you are having a great time and plans are heavily in place for the upcoming festive season. Well i would be feeding you with some plans for the last weeks of this year.
As we approach the season of love, i thought to share a thought on love being a deliberate choice.
I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all the year round. And on the other hand cheating isn’t a product of not loving your partner. Infact loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work mostly because of our head not our heart. It works because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence, spiritual discipline and most importantly self discipline. . .
A time will come when you would see a more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing person other than the one you are in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you, self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you are committed to will rank first in your life. . .
Even married people sees better people than the ones they are married to. They could feel funny sometimes and catch feelings, but the understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that destroys that impulse. . .
I think basically contentment is one major factor that needs to be strongly considered in every relationship. Being contented doesn’t mean you wouldn’t see other reasons to jump ship or act awkwardly, but there would be that discipline that keeps you focused to that which you have at your table.
Building a relationship takes more than being attracted to each other or loving each other, it requires work, contentment and a deliberate discipline. . .
Thanks for reading.